You can't fear & serve at the same time.
Uplevel your relationship to power, authority and mentoring skills to shift outcomes and create LIFE CHANGING breakthroughs
Ever felt like you kiiinda need your client's approval?
...and instead of being bold, direct, honest and relaxing into your power - you feel yourself worrying how they will perceive you and then THEY end up running the show?
You might be shy to admit that you don't always feel like the "leader" in your coaching relationships.
You might be good with your clients that are "below your level" but end up feeling threatened when interacting with clients, students, or other coaches that you perceive as powerful
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Or, maybe you've found yourself entangled in draining power struggles with clients, peers, or students - frustrated at not being respected or heard & feeling the draining need to assert & flex your authority to maintain control.
SYMPTOMS OF NOT HAVING
TRUE POWER:
• People overstep your boundaries & it catches you off guard - the line between being loving & compassionate & being an over-giving doormat is confusing
• Getting triggered, freezing, or reactive when you have clients or peers who are aggressive or tend to be more dominating.
• Freezing up when there’s a client you don’t know how to handle or that triggers you.
• Feeling like you’re in an endless marathon of trying to be the best, do the best, and outperform others and ending up in burnout.
• Fearing that others will eventually “find out” you’re not as capable as they think (hi, imposter syndrome)
• Questioning yourself when coaching peers & those who are “on your level” or above, or whom you see as powerful.
• Ruminating over what you should have said (I’LL TELL THEM) - but finding yourself getting frozen up and scared when the time comes.
• Self-censoring to fit what you think others expect, rather than speaking your truth.
• Getting performance anxiety when you’re leading someone through a hard experience you’ve never been through before.
• Comparing yourself to other coaches to see if you are matching up on the social hierarchy.
WHY WE DON'T HOLD
POWER & AUTHORITY:
• The shadow of being a high achieving performer archetype so people pleasing to your clients or in close relationships is a survival strategy to make sure you’re loved at the expense of holding your own power and authority
• You have a past of challenge with authority - either having a dominating parent or sibling, or having to be the one in charge too early on in life.
• You don't know how to hold boundaries when they're tested & it catches you totally off guard and sends you into a dysregulated spiral.
• You’re good at the vulnerability part but confused on when and how to be direct - the balance between nurturing and holding & being direct gets merky because your work involves dealing with deep, emotional issues, making the power dynamic more complex and sensitive.
• People Pleasing and high achieving is a survival response - not a FULLLY EXPRESSED SOUL LEAD response
• Comparing yourself to more experienced or successful coaches takes up your mental energy instead of cultivating your own sense of power & authority
You’ve confused client autonomy with never asserting your authority
You’re relying way too much on your soft skills - compassion and care are your biggest super powers, but they’re not being balanced by boundaries, clarity, and directness.
You Haven’t Been Trained to hold Power + Authority with an Open Heart - when we think power we think “power - over” but true power has no need to dominate, control, nor hide it’s authority.
• Clients’ reactions to authority can be unpredictable, making it difficult to gauge the appropriate level of power to assert.
...BUT WHAT HAPPENS WHEN YOU HAVE TRUE POWER & AUTHORITY
YOU HOLD THE KEYS TO YOUR POWER and from there you radiate it out instead of looking for it somewhere outside of yourself.
• Your circles are filled with loving, respectful, and powerful people who don’t need to take power from others, or create insecure power dynamics, because they have it in themselves
• You create your throne, and then you sit in it
WHAT IS TRUE POWER?
True power is the ability to be unshakably confident without needing to prove yourself to anyone, to know yourself and what you're capable of deep on the deepest levels, AND keep your heart open, move into vulnerability without fear, and not need to be hyperventilate and on guard tracking everything and everyone all the time.
It is the ability to wield both soft skills - like compassion, holding, nurturing, and depth, and hard skills like presence, leadership, directness, and fearless authority.
It does not seek control over others, the need for external validation, or the need to dominate to feel powerful because it is OWNED internally and does not need energy from anywhere outside itself.
It is what every successful coach needs.
In this class you will learn
THE RADIANT AUTHORITY BLUEPRINT:
• Learn the secret sauce to powerful leading while also keeping an open heart.
• Access to where power is hidden in your somatic body & how to access it daily
• Techniques to speak your truth clearly and confidently, even in challenging situations.
PRAISE FOR THE POWER OF THIS WORK
MEET YOUR TEACHERS
Jessica Benstock: The Teacher & Instructor
Jessica is a teacher of somatic & subconscious rewiring to coaches who seek high level mastery and mentorship to excel in their own legacy.
And a leadership mentor + personal advisor for high level 6 & 7 figure entrepreneurs & founders.
She specializes in somatic and subconscious trauma resolution, rewiring, and energetic cultivation.
Her approach integrates heart-led self-knowledge with transformative healing, turning challenges into growth opportunities.
With expertise in emotional and ancestral healing, energetic awakening, sexual embodiment, and power reclamation.
Jessica blends subconscious reprogramming, somatic healing, trauma resolution, meditation, hypnotherapy, relationship dynamics, and Chinese medicine energetics. She has also trained with indigenous elders in Mayan, Lakota, Shipibo, and Quechua rituals.
Jessica’s facilitation style addresses the root of energetic and emotional issues. She has trained over 1,100 students and worked with high-level executives and entrepreneurs. Based in Boulder, CO, she enjoys sensuality, meditation, writing, dancing, metal shows, hermeticism, snowboarding, and prayer invocation work.
Rayray: The Master of Ceremonies
Rachel (aka RAYRAY) is a leadership advisor / consultant for women in the coaching industry. She focuses on refining the skillsets of vision, communication, leading from the heart, energetic polarity, recovering the voice of truth, wielding power, rewilding the feminine spirit, and helping women come into full possession of their soul’s quintessential purpose. Her background as a thought leader & serial entrepreneur of multiple million-dollar businesses provides a holistic union of primal animal-body wisdom with celestial-spiritual intelligence.
In this workshop experience, Rayray will be hosting, moderating, and guiding as Master of Ceremonies, alongside Jessica to provide an engaging & refreshing transformation for all.
